As a grieving person, you have certain inalienable rights that cannot be taken away from you by those who may not understand.
When grieving during the holiday season, you have the right to:
1. Feel what you feel and be politely honest with others about it. If you, do not feel merry, cheerful, or otherwise festive, then say so.
2. Reserve your feelings. If you would rather say, "I am fine," that is okay.
3. Avoid parties or family gatherings where your loved one and your grief are not welcome.
4. Take time for yourself. Whether this is a walk alone, a day in bed, or some other momentary escape.
5. Cry when it hurts, laugh when something is funny, and smile when you are happy. Don't feel guilty about any of it.
6. Have your loved one remembered in a way that is meaningful to you.
7. Change your mind repeatedly during any get-together, event, or party. You may not know what you can or cannot handle until faced with it.
8. To change traditions when necessary or desired. Traditions are supposed to bring comfort, not distress.
9. Enjoy your holidays. Your loved one is going to be celebrating with you. It doesn't mean that you have forgotten or are being disrespectful. Living life is a wonderful way to honor them.
10. Try again next year if this year does not turn out the way that you want.